At 93 you give a flying something…or CHEERS!

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Last weekend my sweet great-aunt Margot had her birthday. It was the first one in her new home. As some of you know it was a hard summer for her having a heart attack and stroke and I had to move her into an elderly home as there is no way she can live alone anymore. She really adjusted well, she made a lot of new friends, she goes to Bingo and Quiz Hour (where she likes to prompt and spoil the game- LOL), she has rosy cheeks and gained quite some weight- which is good!. She has very light moments, and some not so light moments- but the best thing is she didn’t loose her optimistic happy and friendly mood and the nurses told me they love her and the other inhabitants too and that she is lifting the spirit in the home.



(here she is  (who has been an avid photographer all her life)  right before stating that whatever I have in my hand (iPhone) to take a “photo” looks a bit pathetic (insert huge laughter of all younger people at table and silent approving nodding by older people at table)

For a couple of months my sweet aunt gets visits by a nice mid-aged lady who is a volunteer for an organization to visit older people. I think it is wonderful that there are people doing this. She is good minded and nice but unfortunately a person who likes to control. The last months I had several complaints by the nurses, she is always telling them they do things wrong and she is constantly telling me the way I do things are not right either. She also thinks she knows my aunt very well…which makes me sometimes crazy too.  It is very hair flipping and it honestly starts to push me over the edge sometimes. Just to give you an example: my aunt is changing her clothes about 7 times a day…she just does, when she is alone in her room she wanders to her wardrobe and starts going through all stuff. But of course she is not able to put everything back orderly in her wardrobe the way it should be. So the visiting lady calls me and goes into this long tirade about how bad the nursing home is in keeping the wardrobe orderly and that I have to take care of this. Then the nurse calls and complaints that this lady was scolding them for not being tidy enough. I feel like a little punchball.

But my aunt likes her, and it is about my aunt and not all of the others and I am happy that there is someone who visits her regularly given the fact she lives far away from me and so I try everything to please them all.

I organized aunt Margot’s birthday party before I left for North America.When I talked to my aunt about it, she requested champagne to give a toast. And so I got two bottles for 16 people – because it’s her birthday party. So we sit at the table and my aunt raises her glass and everyone cheers, and after an hour she asks me to pour a second glass. I am thinking shortly about it and then think to myself- two small glasses are ok. But the visiting lady gives me the evil eye and says to my aunt that she should be careful with her diabetes (which is true) and that she thinks she shouldn’t drink this glass anymore. By this time everyone else is getting calm in the room and looks at my aunt who has already raised the glass and she looks at the visiting lady and says with a very firm voice

“I am 93 and I have my birthday today…I don’t give a flying shit about my diabetes today!”



Cheers, Aunt Margot!!! I hope you give a flying something on many more birthdays ! I love you! You can imagine we all rolled under the table…even visiting lady laughed, she left shortly after though.

And isn’t it true?…if you are in that age…you should be still able to decide on certain things and also when to give a flying something…!

Wishing you a wonderful day

huge hugs


  • Karla A


    By the time !my grandmother reached her 90th birthday, we told the nursing home if she wants dessert or treats let her have them! She’s 90 freaking years old, who cares about the diabetes, she LOVES sweets and has had a good life, let her live out the rest however she wants….


  • Micki


    Oh Nat, it’s kind of eerie how much I can relate to you. My grandmother will be celebrating her 97th birthday on Wednesday. And I just knew….. knew your great aunt was going to say something along that line, lol, because that is what my family would have said. Especially my grandmother! My aunt has said that at her age, she is not going to do without just because of her diabetes (Oma has to have injections) and thankfully the Drs. agree. Thank you for sharing “real” life, although I get even more homesick, I definitely feel closer to my home in Germany. Einen Herzlichen Gluckwunsch an die Tante Margot!!!!


    • Nathalie Kalbach


      Wow- 97 ! Happy Birthday to your grandmother! Huge hugs! Nat


  • peg


    What a wonderful experience!


  • Carrie


    LoL good for her! I hope to be that lively. My husband’s grandmother is more reserved but just as tough as your aunt. Must be something about old German ladies!


  • Lynne N


    Oh this is never an easy decision, but I found that my mother thrived once she got with people her own age. She also was eating better, and looking better. My mom even asked if she had to go home, and preferred to stay at the home with her “friends.”


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